I recently found this TikTock by user vegandannydevito. Unfortunately I couldn’t find the video to show you guys but, he was poking fun at art students. Which is all in good nature, he didn’t say anything outright mean or impolite, he was simply categorizing art students. He said things like they sleep on matresses on the floor, and they all like the Smiths, only listening to the music on record(of course). He even went so far as to describe the style of their instagram posts. Now of course, this is not an issue, I just found this amusing and wanted to write about it.
Now teenagers are just trying to find their way in the word, their just trying to figure out who they are, who they want to be, what the believe, what their boundaries are, that sort of thing. But something that doesn’t help is when OTHER teens place labels–not always bad ones!– on eachother.
Style is you. No one else has your style, though other people may have similar styles, no one else is exactly you. And this is important to understand because as you are finding your personal style, people will try to shove you in a group with “similar styles” when in reality, you could be totally different. But being in a group with people with similar taste is not at all a BAD thing, it can help you bond over liking the same shoes or music or food. But good turns to bad when outsiders assume that you two have the exact same style.
I know this feeling very personally. I go to a predominantly black school, and my best friend happens to be white, like me. Only the two of us can tell our styles apart, when someone sees us they see the same person, two girls wearing jeans with a shirt and tennis shoes, when in reality, she wears air force one’s, and I hate that type of shoe, and I’m wearing a sweater crop top, and she hates showing her belly. She’s a little more soft grunge and I’m a little more boho/dark grunge. But all other people see is grunge. We are constantly correcting people of our names and it gets quite frustrating. But it’s not our fault, and it’s not their fault either. I’m a bit more outgoing and she’s a bit more reserved, and definitely smarter than me. No matter how in depth I try to explain our styles, all you will ever know is what I tell you. And there is so much more. Because my best friend also has an emo side, and I also have a sporty side. YOU CAN’T PUT PEOPLE UNDER ONE CATEGORY. It just doesn’t work.
So I’m not sure what I got out of writing all of that, I didn’t really come to any conclusion, I just needed to rant a bit. Thank you for reading, have a wonderful evening.